In the years I have been in my chair I have had a number of things being said or happen to me by others, none of it being malicious, it seems that some people just go into brain fart mode and become a little socially inept around the wheels of steel!
This is not a moan but what I actually find humorous about the world around us and people in it.
What not to do:
- I realise I have awesome hair. But there really is no need to start stroking me like a dog while I’m in the queue at M&S waiting to buy my big girl pants!!
- No, it is not appropriate if I am on the dance floor to come up and start spinning me around without asking. It spills my drink.
- Please don’t use my wheelchair, especially when I’m sat in it as a place to hang your handbags or coats. I am not a coat rack on wheels!
- Complete strangers coming up and Straddling me is not appropriate. End of.
- Walking past me and patting me on the head, it’s just a bit weird and not a normal greeting to any human or any animal come to think of it!!
What not to say:
- “When my legs get tired later I’ll sit on your lap for a lift”….Yeah…No you won’t!
- “Oooo careful mind my toes” and then laughing hysterically. I will only run over your toes if you get in my way, otherwise I am a very good driver thank you very much, well apart from being visually impaired but that’s a whole other story.
- An American guy walked passed me while I was waiting with my friend at reception to book into the hotel we were staying at and gave me the thumbs up and said “good work champ”…..Champ!!! Well that’s a first.
- You have only just met me and your first question is “how long have you been in a wheelchair?” Well my friend how long have you been standing?
- Please don’t threaten to let my tyres down and laugh while saying it. Do you see me laughing, it’s not funny!
- “Vroom”………That’s my line!
- “Do you have L plates for that?”.. hahahhahaaaaaa….No
- My personal favourite “My heart goes out to people like you, normally people like you get depressed and die”…..Really!! Luckily I am a happy go lucky kinda girl and at this point of the evening had a number of vodka and tonics in me to smile sweetly and say “Thank you, I think!”
To be honest children are my absolute favourites, with their complete innocence. When they come up and start asking me questions “Why don’t your legs work?”, “Do you sit down all the time?”, as you see their mum cowering behind a clothing rack.
Or when they come up and hug me for no reason, maybe it’s because I’m face to face height, it’s the cutest thing and I like hugs.
On a serious note, please remember to think about what you say and do to all, just be kind.